{"id":410,"date":"2017-12-01T02:42:07","date_gmt":"2017-12-01T02:42:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/danielvlopes238992071.wordpress.com\/2017\/12\/01\/dont-let-worry-become-a-leadership-weakness\/"},"modified":"2024-10-11T10:27:40","modified_gmt":"2024-10-11T17:27:40","slug":"dont-let-worry-become-a-leadership-weakness","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/canopy.is\/blog\/2017\/12\/01\/dont-let-worry-become-a-leadership-weakness\/","title":{"rendered":"Don\u2019t let worry become a leadership weakness"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Worry is a natural byproduct and characteristic of a leader. Here are five ways to cope with worrying as a leader.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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The other week, I interviewed<\/a> Jason Fried, CEO and co-founder of Basecamp<\/a>. I asked him what he wish he would\u2019ve learned earlier as a leader.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

His response? Worry less.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I smiled when he said this. Oh, how I could relate!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Over the past few years, I\u2019ve noticed how many CEOs (myself included) are stressed out and worried about something. They\u2019re worried about employees leaving, internal team conflict, growing fast enough, their product failing, the market changing, the competition beating them, running out of money, hiring great people\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The list of worries seemingly has no end.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But how do<\/em> we put an end to it? Personally, I know I\u2019d like to worry less. I think more clearly, act more intentionally, and enjoy life a hell of a lot more when I\u2019m less worried.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In an effort to worry less as a leader, I decided to write out what works for me. Here are five things I try to keep in mind to worry less:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ask yourself: \u201cWhat\u2019s the most I can do with what I have right now?\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Most of my worry stems from feeling a lack of control over a situation. I want something to turn out a certain way. So I start to feel overwhelmed and worried when I don\u2019t believe I have the agency to influence that outcome. Here\u2019s the funny thing, though: We have more control than we think. We can control ourselves\u200a\u2014\u200aour actions, reactions, decisions, and beliefs. What we can\u2019t<\/em> control are other people and external events. And if that\u2019s the case, well, why bother worrying about them?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s choose to focus on the former: The things we can control.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To do this, a helpful question I like to ask myself is, \u201cWhat\u2019s the most I can do with what I have right now?<\/em>\u201d <\/strong>This question re-focuses my energy on what I am in control of right now. Instead of idling in indecision and mulling over every possible path and course of action, the question \u201cWhat\u2019s the most I can do with what I have right now?<\/em>\u201d forces your hand. You must deal with the cards in front of you. And once you do, you\u2019ll clear a path to move forward within the constraints you have. Now you can focus on what you can control.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Remind yourself that the present is real\u200a\u2014\u200athe future isn\u2019t.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

My worry also comes from my mind operating too much in the future. I think, \u201cWhat if\u2026<\/em>\u201d or \u201cThat could happen\u2026<\/em>\u201d and brace myself for a future scenario, trying to strategize two steps ahead of it. While in some ways that can be beneficial for thinking through certain complex decisions, it is enormously distracting, for the most-part. The only thing that\u2019s real is what is happening now. The present is real. The future isn\u2019t real yet. It hasn\u2019t happened. Remembering that always lightens the load of my worries.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Realize how good you have it.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

When I stop for a minute and look at my life, I realize how goddamn lucky I am. Lucky that I was born in this country, to have the parents that I have, to go to the schools that I did, to meet the people I have across my career\u2026 I hope I\u2019m not the only person who feels this way. So many of us, even in our worst, most pained, stressed, and worried work moments, live lives that 99% of the world would trade places with in an instant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Of course, it\u2019s tough to remember when we fall victim to our own worry-ridden train of thought. To combat this, at the end of every day, I try to think of three specific moments earlier that day when I felt joy or gratitude. (Studies<\/a> have shown that in fact writing down daily what you\u2019re grateful for significantly reduces stress in people.) I realize that I\u2019ve got it good\u200a\u2014\u200aand so many of us do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Share your worries.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Tell other people what your worries are. It does no good to suffer in silence. Often times, when I say my worries aloud to another person, it becomes immediately apparent how stupid that worry is, how pointless it is\u2026 and the worry evaporates. If it doesn\u2019t, at the very least, you now have a confidant, a pal, who you can think things through with and discuss a plan of action around. Don\u2019t keep worries to yourself. Share \u2018em.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Step away, move your body, get some sleep.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

My worries become exacerbated when I don\u2019t take care of my mind and my body. When I\u2019m in a particularly stressful or worrisome situation, usually the best thing is to take a step back, get my body moving, and go do something different. Go for a walk. Get on a bike. Breathe some fresh air. Go surround yourself with greenery, or good music. Talk to a sibling, parent, friend, boyfriend, or spouse about something completely non-work related. And get some sleep. Rest the mind, rest the body. The break is needed. I always return feeling clearer and fresher on what matters.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I hope these tactics may be as helpful to you as they\u2019ve been for me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If anything, as I shared with Jason during our interview, do keep in mind what a friend once told me:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cWorry is the most useless emotion.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

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